I sat chatting with a lovely man today someone who could hold a conversation, not patronising and a good listener. Before I forget I was within the earshot of a young man or should I say "man" yeah the type who think being a man involves being a sexist who loves violence. It has always struck me how insecure masculinity is. Frightened of femininity and homosexuality. The overt manifestation of this masculinity revels in putting down what it thinks is deviant masculinity. There is nothing wrong with being manly but manliness that is created by putting any other state of being down seems false. It seems to be an overcompensatory mechanism which seems to suppress any form of dissonance. While every gender should allowed to be experienced in its own way very obvious manliness seems to be the most violent and insensitive. However this not the sum total of masculinity, there are those who aren't particularly bothered by upholding laddish laws who aren't part of a herd and are able to assert their individuality. Resisting this externally created masculinity for an innate and perhaps more individual sense of being.
It seems this narrow understanding of masculinity is way of experiencing all the joys of being manly minus the responsibility.
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