Not such an equal marriage

The seamier side of things

Last night I read two important stories on the internet – UK allows gay marriage, Gay man kills wife when she threatened to expose him.

The first story showed pictures showed happy white people from LGBT groups holding hands, kissing. The other story also UK based was sickening on so many levels. A British  man of Indian origin had gone back to India to find a suitable bride whom he eventually killed. His wife found out he was gay and threatened to leave him this is when a fight ensued and he killed her and burnt her body.

While a certain section of British society is celebrating its freedom another is living with dark secrets. The hypocrisy of Indian society never fails to sicken me. So this couple married presumably to make their parents happy fulfil a role society expects of them and it turned out so wrong. The whole idea of the marriage seemed wrong so he met and rejected girls who he met once- because marriage is a bit like mating dogs. He knew he was gay and decided to marry a woman instead of coming out. The girls family thought it was a good idea to let their daughter marry a man they had only just met and lived in different country.

It is sad that this young woman lost her life in such a brutal way. Looking at comments on Indian news websites most people were of the opinion that this man had the freedom of coming out in a country like UK, he could have moved to another town, he was financially independent the law was on his side. The deceit and cowardice cost a young woman her life.

It also points to the ugliness that surrounds Indians marriages. We marry our children because it is the respectable thing to do. Men and women are introduced to each other through matchmakers after one or two meetings they decide to get married. This comes from an sexually repressed society which frowns upon men and women talking to one another it sees no problem in promoting the idea of institutionalised rape.

While a section of British society celebrates equal marriages another one lives a life of deceit, hiding, disguising and even murdering. While the law in UK on this issue is equal when it comes to colour it needs to be less insular when it comes to LGBT activism.